I am a woman. Here me ROAR! Usually crying or yelling. Why? Because I am emotional. Being emotional is not a bad thing. God created women to be emotional.  He gave us strong desires and big hearts.  Some of us even cry at commercials.  The truth still remains that we are very emotional and we can “get worked up” over the smallest affairs.  The world we live in has made us believe that being emotional is not ok. We are looked down on; bullied even. In fact, we are made to believe that we should look a certain way and act a certain way.  And if we are not doing it “right” then we are “crazy”.

Have you ever seen the movie “Inside Out”?  It is a Disney animated movie about our emotions.  It depicts our emotions as living beings in our minds.  The characters are Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust.  The movie is designed to help us understand how each emotion works and how they work together and why we need them.  (Sorry for the spoilers but it’s an older movie.)  We see Joy, who seems to be the leader in this 12 year old girl’s head yet Sadness seems to be gaining more control. Joy does not like that Sadness is getting stronger and an internal battle begins. Eventually Joy and Sadness are accidentally removed from the “HEADquarters” and get lost in long-term memory.  Now that they are gone, headquarters is ran by Anger, Fear, and Disgust.  You can imagine how that went for this poor 12 year old girl.  Towards the end of the movie, Joy begins to understand that Sadness has a very important role and some memories need Sadness. They begin to work together to get back to where they belong.

No one likes to be sad, but sometimes sadness is beneficial; however, there are emotions that can become unhealthy and take over if we let them (if we allow Joy to be lost).

I am going to go over three emotions in this devotion today.  Three that I believe as women we deal with quite often.

Scripture Reference:

Romans 12:21, says “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good.” 

1. JEALOUSY - Breaking the curse of jealousy.

Let’s be honest, when women get together we will talk.  Specifically, we talk about each other. We can say some really hurtful things about our friends. “Jealously is a poison that I drink in the hope that the other person will die.” (unknown author).  This is such a POWERFUL statement.  Think about it.  We say something foul about someone hoping that it destroys the person we are talking about but in reality it is destroying our souls.  Exodus 20:17 says, “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” This is one of the 10 Commandments. God strictly commands us not to be jealous of what someone else has. This does not refer to you liking a dress someone is wearing and you would like to have it. The kind of jealousy I am writing about is a soul eater. We begin to tell lies and try to ruin reputations. We become bitter and angry. The saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is such a lie.  We all said this at one time or another. But the truth is sticks and stones may break our bones; HOWEVER, those wounds will heal.  Words, on the other hand, will RIP holes right through us, leaving us scarred and bloody.  Some of us never overcome the things people have said causing us to live in fear, in pain, and paranoid (feeling like we cannot trust anyone).

Ask yourself this, have you ever found yourself bothered by someone else’s achievements or praise? Have you ever asked yourself WHY you feel this way?

(Getting back to) Romans 12:21.  I am going to replace the word evil with jealousy. Do not be overcome by jealousy but overcome jealousy with good.  When we are busy helping the poor, the homeless, the sick (doing what God speaks passionately about - Matthew 25) then we can’t worry about our jealousy/envy over another person’s clothes, job, kids, husbands, appearance, etc. When we serve in the church, whether it be handing out worship guides or checking in kids at the kids church check-in desks, we are serving God. That is all God wants from us. To serve Him. We get too caught up in being on stage or seen and we forget that its about the Kingdom and not about us. Kingdom is about the love of God and showing that love to others. If we were all on stage then no one would be checking in the visitors kids and making them feel loved. They would leave. No love would be shown to that person who probably really needs it. 1 Corinthians 13:4 – Love is patient love is kind love does not envy it does not boast it is not proud. Envy and jealousy cannot exist when love is involved.  So go love on someone. 

STOP and think that God may be getting you ready for something great that you didn’t even expect. So do not be jealous of “Diane’s” anointing and the things she is doing for God and her blessings. I love this quote, “Stop being jealous of people in their winning season. You don’t know what they lost in their losing season.” You will have your winning season too. Just wait on God. Be still. Worship and praise. It will come, you just have to have the right attitude. Quit asking why someone has and you don’t and start sowing….then maybe you will start reaping blessings (if you sow out of love for god and others).

2. FEAR - Breaking the curse of fear.

Fear is linked with lack of faith. Lack of faith that we cannot create powerful solutions. There are many different types of fears (phobias).  Some are very interesting but they are all very real to many individuals. There is actually one called phobephobia which is the fear of being afraid. That must make their head spin.  How do people cope?

We all at some point or even currently seem to fear that we won’t be popular enough or accepted if we aren’t wearing the latest style or drive the best car or whatever.  We fear everything around us but not the one thing we are supposed to fear.  That’s the problem!!!!!!!  We are so worried about everything and everybody else and not enough about our own spiritual woman. Proverbs 14:26 says, “Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress and for their children it will be a refuge.” (Generational curses…think about it.)  Fear is a general curse.  Hebrews 12:28-29 says, “Therefore since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken let us be thankful and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe for out God is a consuming fire.”  My pastor said during our Revelation series that Jesus has fire in his eyes and looks awesome and John saw this and was afraid.  If we understand who Jesus is/who God is we don’t have to fear the things of the world. What is fear when we have THAT kind of God on our side?  It makes no sense.  Fear leads to worry and worry is not trusting in God that He will handle the situation and/or give you strength to do so.   I love Not Today by Hillsong United. There is a lyric in the song “Fear is just a lie running out of breath.” Fear is not being completely convinced of something. We live in fear of death because we are not certain whether we will live throughout the day.  We aren’t believing the lie so fear enters making us question everything and worrying. This fear and worry can lead to anger. Before we move on to the final emotion word, let us do like we did in jealousy above. We are going to replace the word evil with fear. Do not be overcome by fear but overcome fear with good.

3. ANGER - Breaking the curse of anger.

Last but of course not least is anger. All of us have gotten angry at some point, but not every point of anger is sin. Jesus got angry at the temple and we all know that Jesus was without sin. Anger that is based on selfishness and control is sin.  Yes, I get angry.  There was a time that I got angry a lot.  It was due to my coworkers.  My coworkers would not do their jobs correctly and that would cause me not be able to complete something I needed to do; therefore, I would get extremely angry.  God wrecked me concerning this issue.  He asked, “why are you getting so angry? You should realize that it does not do you or them any good to get angry.”  God was showing me that my coworkers will probably still be doing the same stuff that irritates me so how about I pray for them instead. I then started praying for my coworkers to understand the job better and for me to be able to help them and not get frustrated with them.  It hit me like a tons of bricks.  I needed to be more loving towards them and pray for understanding.  They are not going to change or excel by my anger issues, but I can pray for God to help them. 

Ok ladies, we all know that we can get angry with our husbands.  Am I right?  Let me offer this suggestion, instead of yelling at our husbands or talking badly about him to our friends (which by the way is NOT healthy), let’s begin to do something nice for our husbands and pray for our husbands (click to see Prayer Journal post).

Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another.”   We can either sharpen each other in love and truth or sharpen them in anger.  Hebrews 10:25 says to encourage one another. Galatians 6:2 says, “Carry each other’s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ”.  The Bible says we are supposed to be the salt and the light.  Anger towards one another takes the light and smothers it and makes the salt blow away in the wind.

Anger also can lead to depression and depression can lead to jealousy and then fear and then you get angrier.  It’s vicious cycle that only become worse. Again, I quote Romans 12:21, “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good.”  Replacing evil with anger we have Do not be overcome by anger but overcome anger with good.

I am reminded of one of my pastor’s sermons: “When you know who you are, you’ll know what to do”.  If we apply the word in our lives and acknowledge we are women of God, “we know who we are”, then we can love one another, we can do good and we are not overcome by evil.

One more time let us all say this, “Do not be overcome by jealousy, fear and anger but overcome jealousy, fear, and anger with good.” Write this on a piece or paper and put it somewhere you can see it every day. Let it be a reminder to overcome. You are a women. You are a warrior. Be proud of who you are. Now ROAR!!!!

Keep fighting,

Charlotte Millican, founder