Proverbs Experiment

By Charlotte Millican

I originally wrote this in August 27, 2012.  I found it and read it and thought this would be good for the blog. 

So last week I was dealing with this whole "women in ministry" controversy.  It was everywhere.  TV, article on the internet, preachers......I was so scared I was out of God's will by being in the pulpit.  I thought I knew that God had called me to preach.  I had a strong desire to preach but I was I doing something wrong?  It was a ROUGH time.  Lots of tears.  I also started a new book I found called "Proverbs 31 Experiment" by Sara Horn.  This whole women in ministry issue got me thinking.  I need to be a better wife.  I am not being the women of God that He has called me to be.

Sara refers to the Proverbs 31 wife as Martha 31 (to put a name to it).  I wanted to do my own experiment so I changed it to Charlotte 31.  Then I realized that I was about to trun 31 in a few short weeks.  AAAAHHHH!!!  It was like it was meant to be.  Anyway, it got me thinking.  God wants me to change.  I need to be THAT wife.

I began praying about the women in ministry thing and God spoke to my "spirit woman".  It wasn't the calling (preaching, etc.) He was trying to get through my head, it was the wife calling.  I wasn't letting my husband be my pastor, my spiritual head.  I wasn't respecting him.  I was complaining all the time.  Fighting with him for no reason.

God then began to speak to me concerning my ministry.  I will never be effective in my calling or maybe in my calling at all (as a youth pastor, music minister, preacher, etc.) as long as my house is OUT OF ORDER.  Which it is in its current state (but I'm fixing that).  The order has be God then Don.  Not God-Charlotte-Don.  I can't expect to have order in ministry without order in my house.  It won't work.  I can't honor God without honoring my husband.  He is the head of me and Christ is the head of him.

I started this experiment and so far so good.  I will not be lazy, I will provide, I will respect my husband, I will comfort, I will pray for my husband and my children, I will submit myself to him, I will teach my children godliness, I will be of noble character, I will be praised at the city gates, I will fear the Lord.

So there it is...a journal entry from a few years ago.  God is still working in my marriage.  He is blessing my marriage.  I love you honey.

Proverbs 31: 10-31from

10 A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.