It's February! Also known as the looooove month. I have been thinking a lot lately about vulnerability and how it plays such a huge role in our day to day lives. If you stop to think about it, we have to allow ourselves this in nearly all of our relationships. From spouse to friend to our Heavenly Father, we have to let our guards down. Scary, right?! Will we be accepted or rejected? For some this is so terrifying that they avoid it at all costs, only allowing themselves to experience relationships surface deep.
Do you remember the first time you said, "I love you" to your spouse?
I do. I remember the first time I told the man who became my husband, "I love you".
It. Was. Scary. Fearful actually.
He had told me he loved me early in the relationship but I wasn't yet at that point. I didn't love him. Yet. I promised myself I would never say those words again until I was certain I meant it. A past relationship broke me so badly, I wasn't even sure if I knew what love was anymore. If I remember correctly, I believe I responded to him with, "Thank you". Talk about being vulnerable on his end! Whew! He said "I love you" and I responded with a "Thank you"?! What a mess I thought I had made.
If there is anything that has been scarier for me to say than "I love you", it is the words, "I need you". Whoa. Just that one word "need" speaks so much. I never have wanted to "need" anyone. Needing turned to pain a lot of the time. Even at times in the past, I felt I didn't need my Lord. When you're broken, part of you thinks you should stay that way. Need and burden were blurred lines in my world, even though I knew they were completely different. Oh but how much that has changed!
Saying "I need you" opens yourself up into an entirely new level of vulnerability. Revealing your heart can be terrifying, but without it, you can't build any connections. Although it can be uncomfortable, vulnerability is good and it is necessary. It can be mistaken as a sign of weakness but it is really a sign of strength and humility.
If we are to become like children in our relationship with Christ, it requires us to be open and trusting.
Let's go all the way back to Genesis. When sin came into the world, it broke everything. Shame took over & love shattered. What a sad thing to think about! That perfect love being broken.
We were created to know love the way the Father and Son know love. Pure. That's why we crave it so much. God's intended design for love is perfect and in Him, there is absolutely no fear in that love. No fear of being hurt, let down, rejected, or dropped and broken. The enemy attempts to misuse and abuse our weaknesses through fear, isolation and shame. God, on the other hand, can take our vulnerability and use it for His glory and for us to receive more of His grace through it.
We NEED each other and we NEED relationships. We NEED to allow ourselves to be vulnerable so we don't miss out on the love He created. Will there come a time when you get hurt in that vulnerability? I can almost guarantee it. But we have to remember who the ultimate lover of our soul is. He never goes anywhere no matter how far we drift and He will never leave us or misuse and abuse us even when people do. He is solid and His love is tangible, making it easier for us to love others, once we receive it.
I'm telling you the truth when I say, you will NOT love correctly, the way he has meant for us to, whether it be spouse or friend, without HIM. You just won't. The only way you'll know real love is if you allow him to do a total heart renovation.
I challenge you to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Start with allowing Him to break down all of those walls you've built around your heart for whatever reason. You will find in Him, PERFECT love. What a peaceful breath of fresh air!
Then, you will be able to pass that same love around like a contagious domino effect. If there is anything this world needs, it needs for you to love on people.
Get out there! Be vulnerable, build relationships, and connect with each other and most importantly with God.
He PAID it all making LOVE worth it all!
Happy Love Month!
XoXo ~ Jess
"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they are never weakness." ~ Brene' Brown