I am a woman. I am emotional. I am stating the fact that as a woman I am extremely emotional at times. God created women to be emotional. He gave us strong desires and big hearts. Some of us even cry at commercials. But not at the babypuppymonkey horror that we all saw on the 50th Super Bowl commercials. Truly horrifying. The truth still remains that we are very emotional and we can “get worked up” over the smallest affairs. Society does not help us at all. In fact, we made to believe that we should look a certain way, be a certain way, and eat certain things. And if we are not conforming to the standards then our emotional sparks start flaring.
Have you ever seen the movie “Inside Out”? It is a Disney cartoon about our emotions. It depicts our emotions as beings living in our minds. There characters are Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust. The movie is designed to help us understand how each emotion works and how they work together and why we need them. (Sorry for the spoilers.) We see Joy, who seems to be the leader in this 12 year old girl’s head, get worried because Sadness seems to be having more control. Eventually Joy and Sadness accidently are removed from “headquarters” (see what happened here…”HEAD” quarters and get lost in long-term memory. Now headquarters is ran by Anger, Fear, and Disgust. You can imagine how that went for this poor 12 year old girl. Joy later understands that Sadess is very important and some memories need Sadness.
No one likes to be sad, but sometimes sadness is beneficial; however, there are emotions that can become unhealthy and take over if we let them (if we allow Joy to be lost).
I am going to go over three emotions in this devotion today. Three that I believe as women we deal with quite often.
Romans 12:21, says “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good.”
Romans is such a great book on righteous living. If you need to understand what God expects of us, read Romans.
1. Breaking the curse of jealousy.
Let’s be honest, when women get together we will talk. Specifically, we talk about each other.
We can say some really hurtful things about our friends. “Jealously is a poison that I drink in the hope that the other person will die.” (unknown author). This is such a POWERFUL statement. Think about it. We say something foul about someone (that is really killing our souls) hoping that it destroys the person we are talking about. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” We have all heard that one. This is such a lie. Sticks and stones may break our bones but they heal. Words will tear through us, leaving us scarred and bloody. Some never overcome the things people have said about them.
Have you ever found yourself bothered by someone else’s achievements or praise? We are human and this will happen? But have you asked yourself why you are feeling this way?
(Getting back to) Romans 12:21. I am going to replace the word evil. Do not be overcome by jealousy but overcome jealousy with good. When we are busy helping the poor, the homeless, the sick (doing what God speaks passionately about) then we can’t worry about our jealousy/envy over another person’s clothes, job, kids, husbands, appearance, etc.
1 Corinthians 13:4 – Love is patient love is kind love does not envy it does not boast it is not proud
Envy and jealousy cannot exist when love is involved. So go love on someone. Quit asking why someone has and you don’t and start sowing….then maybe you will start reaping blessings (if you sow out of love)
2. Breaking the curse of fear.
Jealousy is defined as fear…fear that someone is taking something away. Different from envy which is feeling resentful over something some else has/having fear that you don’t have it and you desire it in an unhealthy way
Fear is also linked with lack of faith. Lack of faith that we cannot create powerful solutions. We are too worried about how we are handling the situation. Example, some people have fear on a roller coaster because if they fall they can’t stop themselves. They have no control and that is hard for a lot of people.
There are all kinds of phobias out there. Some very interesting ones but they are all real to many individuals. There is actually one called phobephobia which is the fear of being afraid. That must make their head spin. How do people cope?
We all at some point or even currently seem to fear that we won’t be cool enough or accepted if we aren’t wearing the latest style or drive the best car or whatever. We fear everything around us but not the one thing we are supposed to fear. That’s the problem!!!!!!! We are worried about everything and everybody else and not enough about our own spiritual woman. In Proverbs 14:26 it says, “Whoever fears the Lord has a secure fortress and for their children it will be a refuge.” Generational curses…think about it. Fear is a general curse. Hebrews 12:28-29 –says, “Therefore since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken let us be thankful and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe for out God is a consuming fire.” My pastor said during our Revelation series that Jesus has fire in his eyes and looks awesome and John saw this and was afraid. If we understand who Jesus is/who God is we don’t have to fear the things of the world. What is fear when we have THAT kind of God on our side? It makes no sense. Fear leads to worry and worry is not trusting in God that He will handle the situation and/or give you strength to do so. This fear and worry can lead to anger.
3. Breaking the curse of Anger.
All of us have gotten angry at some point, but not every point of anger is sin. Jesus got angry at the temple. Anger that is based on selfishness and control is sin. Yes, I get angry. There was a time that I got angry a lot. It was due my co-workers. My coworkers would not do their jobs correctly and that would cause me not be able to compelte something I needed. I don’t understand how some can’t prioritize tasks and complete their jobs correctly. It frustrates me so much. But God struck me down hard concerning this issue. Why am I getting angry? I should realize that it does not do me or them any good to get angry. God was telling me that they are still going do the same stupid stuff they always do but how about pray for them. I then started praying for my coworkers to understand the job better and for me to be able to help them and not get frustrated with them. It hit me like a tons of bricks. I needed to be more loving towards them and pray for understanding. They are not going to change or excel by my anger issues, but I can pray to God to help them.
Come on now, we all get angry at our husbands. Am I right? But instead of bashing our husband to his face or to our friends (which by the way is NOT healthy – STOP talking about your husbands), how about we begin to do something nice for our husbands and pray for our husbands (see Prayer Journal post from January 2016).
Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron so one person sharpens another.” This is so true. We can either sharpen other in love and truth or sharpen them in anger. But Hebrews 10:25 says to encourage one another. Galatians 6:2 say, “Carry each other’s burdens and on this way you will fulfill the law of Christ”. The Bible says we are supposed to be the salt and the light. Anger towards one another takes the light and smothers it and makes the salt blow away in the wind.
Anger leads to depression and depression can lead to jealousy and fear and then you get angrier. It’s vicious cycle that just gets worse. Once again I quote Romans 12:21, “Do not be overcome by evil but overcome evil with good.” When we are busy helping the poor, the homeless, the sick (doing what God speaks passionately about) then we can’t worry about our jealousy/envy over that person’s clothes, job, kids, etc. We do not get angry about co-workers. We do not get depressed over our own problems. 1 Corinthians 13:4 says, “Love is patient love is kind; love does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud.” LOVE. This is the answer to everything. God is LOVE.
I am reminded of one of my pastor’s sermons: “When you know who you are, you’ll know what to do”. If we apply the word in our lives and acknowledge we are women of God, “we know who we are”, then we can love one another, we can do good and we are not overcome by evil.